OK, I'm married but that is besides the point I'm going to make. I'm happily married but this other guy isn't. He is my landlord and he has shown some great interest in liking me for as long as I am renting his house. I'm moving this weekend because I do have feelings for him in which my husband knows but the heart can't help feel what it wants to feel. So I am moving to protect my marriage and I have not cheated on my husband or anything. In fact I didn't even touch the guy (landlord). I feel like he has been trying to pursue me and yes I know he wants sex but is that all a guy would want if he has been pursuing me for 8 months? I know I'm his tenant but he usually would flirt with me, and has stopped by my house to pick up a few things but he did it all sneakily. Plus he was sneaking around my house a few weeks ago when I was home alone and tried to get in (which is the main reason why I'm moving). I got a couple of unknown calls which I'm not sure if it was him or not but only businesses and my family and him have my number (he has never called me before) unless it was him who was the unknown caller. I'm just confused because even though he is a really shy guy, and he has made a couple of advances, I refused. Would a guy really try so hard just to get a woman into bed? And I am asking this for my own curiosity. Thanks so much!
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As you clearly understand (good!), any and every guy who shows interest in you will want sex, so that doesn't tell you anything. They only real way to know if a guy wants more than that is to make him commit to a relationship and to wait a while before having sex.
Of course, you can't do that, because you're already married, but if you were single, that's how you would know. If you have sex with a guy before you have a commitment from him, then 99% of the time, it's just sex to him, and you'll NEVER get a commitment. And if you tell a guy that you need a commitment first, usually the guys who just want sex will lose interest, because it's easier to find someone else to get sex from than to commit to something they don't want. The problem is that too many girls are afraid that he WILL lose interest (because she doesn't want him to), so she'll give up the sex without a commitment, and by doing that, screws up any chance of ever getting a commitment from him.
Bottom line: there's no way to know if a guy just wants sex, or wants something more, unless you insist upon a commitment before sex, and then make him wait for sex for a little while. And obviously that route isn't available to you anyway.1