This is a topic that worries me somewhat, in that I am entering the dating world at the age of 41 with nothing on my resume.
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I've heard this myself, and actually posted a question about it as well.
After more reading, I discovered the Chimp vs Bonobo conundrum (Our two closest relatives).
Basically, we have socially structured ourselves on the premise that we behave like Chimps, A hierarchical, "alpha male" structure:
-A few men get power over the whole pack, including the attention of nearly all the women.
-The women get intrinsic value because she's preggo for 9 months, while the guy is ready to go again in a few hours. All you need is one guy to start another generation, but every woman counts.
-The "alphas" are determined by the pack's criteria. The females, as such, are drawn to the same males as the other females, in order to swarm around only the highest-status males.
-The men who AREN"T in power are met with distrust by the alphas, and lack of attention from the females. They become "expendable." And their life's drive is to basically make themselves in to good enough fighting machines to overthrow the alphas just to have sex.
However, the way we NATURALLY BEHAVE, at it is being found, is more like Bonobos:
-We may be emotionally attracted to one or two people (pair-bonding), but we are sexually attracted to anyone who meets the criteria.
-Our sex-drive is year-around, like the Bonobos. A Chimp's libido, for the most part, is seasonal.
-Sex is used socially for emotional reasons first, reproductive reasons are secondary. Sex is based on emotional mutuality for us and Bonobos. For chimps, sex is primarily reproductive, and is in the form of rape in most cases.
Basically, we are Bonobos who think we're Chimps. It's unnatural and unhealthy how things are structured.
So basically, if girls do this, it's more likely socialized than it is genetic. While it may play a role, it probably plays more of a social role than a sexual one. She's simply more likely to notice a guy who her friends are mentioning.0