I'm 24 and for most of my life I've been doing my own thing, my own hobbies, the things I enjoy, working on my career. I've never had a girlfriend. I've been on a date or two, though. Anyway, I was talking to a girl my age a few days ago and she's engaged. She was telling me how she met her fiance and she told me that before she met him, she had been single for a year and couldn't take it any longer because she needed someone. When she said that, I thought it was strange. Here I was, single my whole life, and I never felt the "need" to be with someone.
Now, down the line, once I'm established and stuff, I'll definitely want to date more, but right now it just doesn't seem like a priority to me. Is there something wrong with me? The more I look around, the more I realize someone's been with someone and many are engaged or married.
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no. its not weird. I find her saying she _needs_to be with someone far more strange.
few people openly admit to feeling desperate, or uncomfortable with having to deal wotg themselves.
anyways, as far as not wanting a relationship. if you really dont, &r not just lying to yourself., id say you should be relieved. wanting/ needing a relationship, is a pain,. there's beauty in it, but, it doesn't really feel completely, dignified.
its a preferable state to be in. imo. the need to be with someone is more like needing to smoke or drink, or do drugs etc. its a hassle & something a lot of people would rather not feel the need to have, but are more miserable without it. so they are compelled.
if our happy being alone, id consider it lucky.
tho, the fact you are wondering about it, now suggests to me, you're actually not so happy being alone. otherwise ud be perfectly content with it whether it was considered weird or not.
sonds more like you want a girlfriend, but want an objective reason outside of u, for working towards that. rather than admitting you want one.
as I said, its an inconvenience, a lot of people would rather not have to deal th/. wanting someone.
and a lot of people get around it by lying to themselves or someone else.
i just want the sex. id leave but he needs me. I can't break up with her, it'd hurt her. I don't want to be a social outcast so I have to be in a relationship. my parents want to see me happy'. id get farther in work with a wife. etc etc. all bullsh*t excuses, instead of just saying, I don't want to be alone.
anyways if you want a girlfriend, or not, it doesn't really matter if its typical or not. just do w/e you want. as long as you don't do it maliciously.1