I was online dating this guy for a year. He does not like taking pictures and only sent me one picture of himself (head shot). Apart from that I've seen his profile picture. I really enjoyed talking to him and we seem to have a lot in common. I could tell though that he might be less considerate than my last boyfriend but I am accounting for the fact that it is online and we haven't met. After we met though, he seems more into me, and talks to me even more enthusiastically.
I finally met him last month, and I think I was a bit too idealistic with what I thought he would look like. He is a bit overweight. I knew he was short from his profile, but overweight and short isn't quite what I would like if I had met him in real life from the start. I couldn't help though that I am being shallow if I didn't give him a chance and I did, we dated slept together etc, so now I feel attached to him even though at the back of my mind I do mind his appearance. I've dropped him hints about him drinking too much beer that he could be healthier. but really it's just me dissatisfied about his looks. He isn't exactly an angel either and kept wanting me to do some sexual acts that aren't my thing.
Otherwise though, we talk like soul mates online. Should I end it and lose it all? Or should I wait it out and see if I can accept his looks later? Feeling do grow with passing time, even though I'm back home now and we are back on long distance.
I put anonymous here cos I'm embarrassed of the details but still want your perspective. If you've been in a similar situation, better still.
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LOL yep the greatest crime a person can commit; not living up to your expectations.
Honestly, if you're just not feeling it, if you're not having any physical attraction to him, you should just end it. It's fair for you and fair for him. I personally don't believe feelings grow with time when you are with a person you have little or not attraction for, well, except feelings of resentment and frustration. Better to, nip it at the bud, where the wound will hurt less, than to force yourself to go forward. Just kindly tell him it's not working out, no need to be mean about it. If he's around your age or older, he should be worldly enough to accept it like a man.0