I have a profile (on okcupid) and I've messaged a bunch of girls that I genuinely found interesting, and they haven't responded. Not a single one. I thought they were all within my "league" too... so Idk
It shows that they've checked/viewed my page but nothing else
So is online dating pointless for a guy if he's not the perfect prince charming stereotype?
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I met my boyfriend on match.com and we're both pretty average. I have another friend who met her husband on there and they are both a bit "below average" lookswise, but otherwise pretty great people. I also see very attractive men and women on there. I think people on paid sites are more likely to actually be looking for someone to date instead of "just playing."
That being said, not everyone will be into you. Guys have an imagination that every girl has tons of hot guys lining up to be with her on dating sites, but I tried starting conversations with lots of guys just to see where it went. Some replied back and some didn't.
Also, make sure that your profile actually has some info about you and you are searching for good matches. Guys who simply say, "Hey I noticed that I thought you were hot." don't do as well as guys who put up a thoughtful, honest profile and really look for a girl who is a good fit -- not just who they think would be the best looking. For instance, a really cute guy wanted to date me, but he was only into riding motorcycles and going to demo derbies, etc ... and my profile was all about museums and literature. Worth a shot, but I could tell he hadn't read anything I'd written. If you DO go in with the attitude that you'll ask out anyone who fits your looks preferences, but not pay attention to anything else, just be aware that you'll strike out more and then be prepared for it. Neither way is wrong, but being prepared for more rejection with that method is necessary to not burning yourself out.0
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