I'm so tired of being 100% honest with the guys I'm dating from the beginning, giving them my heart, my body, and random small favors only to get screwed over. I'm pretty, smart, and successful at work and school. I get lied to, physically and emotionally hurt, mindf*cked, told I'm not a priority, told I'm too affectionate, too insecure, etc.
I just want someone who will love and accept me for who I am without harsh judgement and will WANT to have sex with me daily. Someone who will love me like my friends do. Someone who will laugh at my jokes like my friends do. Someone who is hygienic and takes care of their appearance like I do.
I'm told I have to withhold sex for 3 months at least, or else they will treat me cheap, not taking me out on dates. Is this true? My previous bfs didn't take me out much, if at all.
Also I'm told that I need to reveal less of myself at the beginning so I can see what he's like first. Aka keeping my business to myself, not telling him early on about my personal struggles and making myself vulnerable (I take antidepressants), etc.
Are these good tactics? If so, why? Any other tips for seeing a guy's true colors early on?
I don't want to play games. Why should you when you feel a magical connection with someone and say "I love you?" I want someone honest like me but I always get played and lied to. :(
I feel like I'm going to date a**holes for the rest of my life...
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I feel your pain :/1