So, there's this guy I spent a week with during a summer program we attended: it's been basically a month since the program ended and we all parted ways, but we still text every single day, we have been for a month straight now (as I mentioned before) except for one day, because his phone had died.
So anyway, on one of my other questions I asked about whether I should tell him I liked him or not? So I finally grew a pair and just did.
His answer was extremely confusing, however. First off, he was very curious about when I started liking him, then he made a big deal about how there's nothing we could do about it because of the distance (we live four states apart) and then when I asked if it would have mattered anyway if I'd told him if he didn't feel the same way (since he hadn't said if he liked me or not back) he replied, "Honestly, I think it would work out, your really cool, smart and easy to talk to...We have a lot of experiences and things in common..but unfortunately I'm not there and your not here for the show...maybe one day when you are, who knows?"
However, he NEVER actually said the words, "I like you" or "I sort of like you" or "No I don't like you"...
I asked two friends, one said, "He's using the distance as an excuse to not have to tell you he doesn't like you" and the second friend said, "I think he's into you, and he's interested, but the distance really sets him off, because he doesn't want to keep thinking about what could be".
So I need help figuring out what he meant. I'm not sure if I should bring the topic up again, because I don't want to annoy him with it?
And we still text everyday...heck, we even flirt! And if anything, since I told him how I felt, he's been much more eager to start up the text conversations than he used to be and he confessed that "I'm the only girl he texts so much within a while".
So hopefully someone with more experience can shine a light here?
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Honestly he is in a mindset of the oh well too far away. he doesn't want to think about the what if. If you were closer he would definitely be into you.
The distance is the only factor, he is focusing on what he can do anything about. Four states over for most people is just too far away for anything permanent to happen.
What you need to do is figure out if you or him are willing to get closer to each other or even meet up once and a while.
Just don't get your hoes up on this one. Unless you can jump the barrier of the distance, you won't win him over.
he does like you thought. He would never have told you that he think it would work out if he didn't like you, but as I said he is defending himself from being hurt or hurting you because of the distance. He doesn't want to commit becuase once you come right out and tell someone that you like them, it is really hard to stop thinking about. And when there might not be anything you can do about it, it will just be torment.