My boyfriend has a pretty "experienced" sex-past and it's been really bothering me. I love him and I don't want to break up with him. But he's practically my first in most intimate things and I'm not nearly his first in anything. I know it doesn't matter, but I can't stop thinking about all the girls he's cheated on and hooked up with...etc.
What do I do? How can I make it stop bothering me?
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Hey I can completely relate to this although I don't remember if it bothered me as bad as you. My boyfriend now of nine years and father of two daughters had a very expierenced young pass life. When we first met he had already been with 11 girls me I was with one guy 2 years and he was my first that's it. So he was my first to with mostly everything- but the trick was it was totally different. you have to remember guys can have sex just to have sex and be done, girls were more emotional creatures but what a lot of people don't realize is for a guy to have a good sex life or love making he has to reach an emotional level as well. (not saying yes he may have had orgasms with these girls but nothing he may expierence with you)So more likely these other girls it was more for fun. You are the more serious one and I doubt if you guys really love each other he will do those things. How long have you been dating? Will make a little difference but not really. I know it made my man very happy to know that I didn't sleep all over with tons of guys and to this day loves the fact that he doesn't have to think of all the men. But we do right doesn't seem fair. Well like I said above you really just can't let it bother you exspecially if you have been together for a little while than you should deffinatly know that he enjoys you, you make him feel more special in many ways that he hasnever felt before and befits you with him feeling this feeling.What I mean when I say that is no matter how many girls he was with YOU made him feel somthing different physically and emotionally! Even though he may have expierenced more its a guy thing they feel like they have too and will only make them happier to know that have the expierence to show the RIGHT girl- they have to feel like winners and well you may have been his winner. The longer your together that feeling will fade, but as for now just know your his winner, enjoy the expierence don't worry about past or future enjoy what you have now! Hope that helped take care!0
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