My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. My boyfriend used to have a job but then he let it go so now he is unemployed. He has some hopes that one of his buddies is attempting to get him a job but has yet to make any actions elsewhere. I'm kind of upset because we never go out. I always drive to his house and see him, where usually we watch television on Friday nights. He has never bought me flowers and we never go on dates. I'm usually the one picking up the tab and I drive him around when we do go out because he never has gas. It makes me upset. I mean I know it's hard because he doesn't have money, but I find out the other day he went and picked up an old girl friend he used to know. I mean I don't know what to do, I just want some flowers!
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Sadly he is using you whether it says it or not. He has grown comfortable with you doing everything for him. If he was a real man he wouldn't PIN his hopes on one of his friends. He'd be looking elsewhere. You deserve better than a free loader and someone who is picking up older GF's sounds very fishy like he is just using you to get food and then on the side seeing who he wants.
Don't do that to yourself. You have to be honest with him and see if he is ready to find a job and be a man. But more so be honest with yourself. In 4 months when you celebrate a year of going out do you still want to be driving him around and hearing him talking about that same friend maybe having another opportunity? You are like his Mother and he is your son. He needs to be a man not a little boy1