Rite, I've been with my boyfriend for 6years, we get on pretty great we get each other and are each others first lovers, we did briefly split for a while and experienced life without one another but that was 3 years ago and we got back together after 5months.. things have been OK lately, yes we fight who doesn't, I do tend to nag a bit tho and it makes him really angry.. recently he's started hanging with his mates more because they are all back around again, and the other night he was texting me and we were getting on great, he was been so so nice saying he was all mine for the weekend and stuff.. late that night tho we had a bit of an argument and I kept nagging wrecking his head, but I was just angry.. next day my world fell apart.. he broke up with me telling me he don't think he loves me anymore that its too stressful for him and that he wants to be on his own.. I begged him not t leave but he made it clear its what e wanted.. we said or goodbyes it was very hard but we did.. I'm completely devastated :( I don't understand how things can just change just like that with no going back and his mind completely made up.. I know I have t move on.. he's quiet strong minded so prob won't text if missed me... is there anything I can do t change this.. don't say move on bla bla.. I just want opinions on how it could be changed I just can't help feeling its a mistake.. he's so stubborn I can't change his mind.. please help ?
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he's seeing someone else, and is peer oriented, I'm assuming by the way youa re typing you are in the UK, but I don't know... there its very common, esp middle calss guys to be very peer oriented. basically you have to compete for attachment with his peers- and believe it or not they DO influence men (indirectly) to cheat.
you can turn this around... but this is what you have to do. playing it cool won't WORK, (despite having angered feelings (let those show through!), don't let the weaker ones take over you now... being vulnerable is something you want when a man is comign towards you, but not at this stage! ) no blaming yourself or beating yourself up for nagging him, there is a reason why it happened!, or anything like that. Call him out on the cheating or eyeballing other women and outside factors creating a distance. this happened with me and my boyfriend of 8 years at teht ime. said he dindt wantt o be with me anymore, but was hiding the fact some girl was pursuing him. (and she knew about me too)
use authority figures or others he respects to reel him in too since right now, he has none for you. wheen he gets caught, comes to his senses, adn starts losing ground with this "roots" who is raising him up to feel cocky enough to leave you... he will regret it.
in the mean time...keep dating men until you have a real deal commitment like marriage or engagement.0