We've been together for only 2 months, and its been a LDR for almost as long. He is coming to visit me, and wants me to let him stay a couple days at my college dorm. He initially expected me to let him sleep on the same bed, but would be okay with the couch. He will spend at least part of the time here staying at a hotel instead since I don't move-in until midway through his visit (and he is pretty loaded). I have said multiple times that this makes me very uncomfortable, and that its a cultural thing (I'm Asian). He says he understands, but is still pressuring me. I think from his experience, he thinks most people do let their boy/girl friends stay over and its not a big deal. Logically I guess there's nothing wrong with that, but I still feel very uncomfortable about it.
Should I let him? Please explain your answer if possible - anything at all would help, thanks!
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Hi there. No you should not let him stay. My reason, there only needs to be one, you are not comfortable with it. End of story. This is a new relationship. If he is pressuring you now and does not know how to take no for an answer I don't know how you could expect for him to not be pushy in the future of your relationship. If he's loaded then there's no excuse why he can't stay at the hotel. "He thinks that most people do let their boy/girl friends stay over" that's great but you're not most people. You are you. Also since we know that money Is not an issue then there is only one reason left for him to be pushing something that makes you uncomfortable and he will be just as pushy once he is in your dorm room. Wish you the best.3