I'll try to explain this the most comprehensible way I can. My friend who has a boyfriend of three years isn't in love with her boyfriend anymore but doesn't want to break up because of breakup guilt. She's in love with someone else but would never ever cheat. She tells me all about this problem of hers. It's all I hear from her and it's driving me nuts. Although I want to help her, I don't know what to say. I told her to break up with her current boyfriend and confess her feelings for the other guy. But she's so stubborn. Although I want to help her, I'm practical, impatient, and get sick of too much drama easily. What would a good friend do? What's the most ethical/moral solution? How can I say it in a polite manner?
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Obviously she should just marry her boyfriend now and live miserably till she dies. Right?
If not he should break up and he sooner the better.
Ask her if she doesn't think her boyfriend deserves to be with someone who loves him? Every day he's with her he's missing chances to find someone else. She's wasting his life, not just her own. And she's not doing it to be nice to him. She's just too much of a coward to have the difficult talk. Pretending it's guilt and 'not wanting to hurt him' makes it seem okay. Call her out in it. She's actually screwing him (and herself) over our of fear. Time to be a big girl and do the right thing.0