I tried getting back with my ex girlfriend today, I told her for the first time since we broke up two months ago that how I deeply love her and that she means the world to me. She got annoyed with me saying why didn't I say this along time ago..I said I feared rejection and she wouldn't reciprocate.
She doesn't believe that I'm madly in love with her because I said stuff to hurt her and started dating other girls.Only reason I started dating other girls because she told me to move on..but when I did she got annoyed why I did it. Saying I didn't love her if I was dating.
She said I should of been honest with my feelings from the beginning which could of helped things...but I mind f*** her with the stuff I do and said to her.
I told her I will do everything I can to get her back and fight for her show her the reason she fell in love with me in the first place. She said I shouldn't do anything stupid though..this means to me that she wants me to prove to her how much she means to me.(I'm I right?) She hasn't turned round and said leave her alone she wants nothing to do with me...yet lol!
When I went on a date she text me saying how's your date..I didn't reply to her as I was on a date. She told me if I was thinking about her why didn't I reply.
Things is I have been holding my feelings back and not fully expressing how I feel about thinking she would say the same...She does love me and wants to be with me...But I have done and said silly hurtful things to her she's like if you love someone you shouldn't do that stuff! Sounds like to me she's not convinced I love her.
I do love her, I think about her every second, minute of the day, I have dreams of marrying her, she's the only girl I have been with that I thought I would marry her. Love her deeply and don't want to lose her.
So what's the best way to show her she means the world to me.
I was thinking a surprise trip weekend away for both of us for starters..Like Europe or the countryside...Then just trying to woo her off her feet like I did at the beginning like I did when we first started dating.
She said we're are not right for each other and we shouldn't get back together.
I told he I want to give it another go and sort things out she said well she cant.
I told her I messed up and do regret it massively. I ask her to tell me she doesn't love me anymore and she doesn't want to try and sort things out, I'll let her be and she will never hear again from me.She said she doesn't want to try sort things out enough is enough.
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I would suggest, but again this is only a suggestion, think about it first, in this circumstance then (according to your update) let there be no contact, none, zip, no pretend bump ins or anyway she can see you were scoping her out to see how she was doing or something. If she has any doubts you should hear from her yourself within 2 weeks or so. but I mean absolutly no contact and living your life.
I suspect there were a lot of games going on, but if you genuinely asked her to try out one more time and she still said no, take the no for an answer, always respond with what she says, so when she does not really mean it, she won't say something like that again in the future.
It sounds like you both played games with each other for a long time, and games was the only way she could keep you 'round... when a girl does that, and she finally "wins" it feels like crap too because she does not beleive you did it on your own accord.
If nothing comes of this, you know how for the future, games and playing around does not work- and perhaps its not your fauilt (don't get into self-depreciation, that's less attractive) perhaps the truth is you were not ready and your subconcious gets the better of you trying to help you out. The pull back and jumping back and forth guys do is quite normal... a lot of girls don't know how to keep their own during this dynamic, and this is where and when they get into their own games and manipulation, becuase of their own insecurities.
Keep in touch, and best of luck. If you are a guy in charge of yourself and your life, no girl can play these games, and they might feel secure enough not to even try. <3