So I met this girl on OkCupid. And, anyway, just to cut to the main idea, I went on a first date with her last Wednesday. I took her to Winebar in NYC for a wine tasting deal from Savored. Getting there was slightly embarrassing because I was using the wrong directions to get there, but I made it up (I think) by playing it light-heartedly and saying ‘yeah, I planned it this way…think of it as me screening you ;) ” as we were walking there.
I think the date went great. She never pulled her cell phone, said she had to go, or looked around bored. She was genuinely engaged and looked to fill in any potential silences with more conversation (even before I could switch gears to another topic). From a observational standpoint, I know that she was moving her hair over her head from one side to the other and also kept ‘fluffing’ it. It was almost to the point where I felt like telling her to stop, lol. Anyway, we shared a lot of stories, eye contact, laughing, and I noticed she did that smile/look away giggle laugh when I just stared at her without saying anything for a few seconds. Date went from 7:30-10:40ish, a little longer than expected but good. Closed out the night with a kiss on the cheek and Christian’s line about maybe wanting to see her again.
Next day, sent a simple closed statement text of ‘hey meangirl:) [inside joke] had a awesome night yesterday.” And then it continued as follows:
Her: hey ha ha yea same, how was your morning, slight hangover?
Me: yeaaa, it was kind’ve tough to get to work today
Her: I just got back from hanging out with reality show people lol, so d list stars lol
Me: niceee, can’t say I’ve done that before. I draw the line at C-list.
(These texts were spread throughout the day)
Me: what do you have going on tomorrow. Ready for the hangover part 2? :)
Her: ha ha I might have some friends in town this weekend, I’m quite popular obviously haha
Her: sure you don’t need a map for hangover 2?
Me: ha ha yeaa
Her: What are you up to this weekend?
Me: My buddy is having a birthday bash tomorrow. So we’re probably going to pregame a bit and then head out
Her: Sounds fun, I’ll probs see what my friends in town wants to doo
Me: cool, let me know if you want to come. If not, we’ll just postpone the hangover 2 until next time
Her: Yea I’ll see if my friends are up for it
Me (much later at night): Getting a table at Gansevoort Park Ave at 11:30
Her: My friends are just getting in the city so I think we might do a low key night
Her: hangover 2 another night
Me: OK deal. have a good night :)
The last exchange was on Friday night. I’ve not texted since. What do you guys think as far as getting that second date? And what do you think I should from here?
Thanks, much appreciated!
Most Helpful Guy
I give you a C- at best. You need some coaching dude. If she was truly interested in you from the beginning...I fear you've lowered her interest level considerably since the end of the date. If you're not careful you will rush into rejection. Slow down! I counted at least 5 bad things you did which were not neccessary...and probably reflected bad on you. Depending on the type of girl she is...you might have already killed your chance at a 2nd date. The question shouldn't be will I get a second date...it should be...what did I do wrong that might keep me from getting a second date?0