OK well first off I am a Junior, transfer student so a unique situation. I didn't know anyone coming into this university because I'm out of state. I felt like I got to know a decent amount of people through Facebook and Twitter before I got here. Well I haven't talked to any of them since all the girls I was banking on joined sororities. And the guys I just fell out of touch with but I met a lot of new guy friends so I ain't too bad in the friend department. Now about the ladies...
The first night I was here I met this awesome girl. She wasn't the typical girl I would go after and maybe that's what drew me. She was cute, smart, sweet and kind. We went on a night walk for well over an hour. I got her number, and for the first night I felt GREAT. I thought, "What a way to start college!" I told my roommate about her and after some Facebook stalking (his idea lol) we found out she actually had a boyfriend. I invited her to see a movie but she already had plans with friends. I really just want to be friends with her now because the more the better in college. We haven't texted much except for when I asked her out to the movie or when I had a question about events at school. I would love to hangout with her again, should I just ask her out to something else? Or hope one miraculous day I randomly run into her, make conversation and then be like "oh we should hangout again sometime!" ? She's the only girl I really got to know thus far, and it's been a full week now. I thought after a great start it would be easy from there on.
OK that's one problem. Hopefully you are still with me. Now here is the biggest problem: finding a girlfriend. It PAINS me to see so many hot chicks around campus and I may never get one of them. I'm at the point of my life where I would love to have a serious relationship. I don't know where or how to really get to know these chicks. It's hard. Besides clubs/organizations how do I start conversation with them? Classes barely started but should I resort to that once class gets more in-depth? I used to be a big party guy but I'm older now and grew out of it. I'm not sure if I can find a nice girlfriend at college parties, I feel like the easy sluts are more likely. If I begin to get desperate, I'm afraid I would just resort to partying every weekend and finding the biggest sluts out there. Temporary pleasure but nothing everlasting.
I'm sorry I tried to cut it as short as possible but I had a lot on my mind and needed to vent. ANY answers/advice would be greatly appreciated and I will gladly give feedback. Thanks in advance!
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Yeah like you could try and see if that girl wanted to hang out, but only as friends. Don't make any moves on her just yet... give things some time and see if she ever becomes single again.
But as for wanting a girlfriend, I can relate, but it's best to just give things some time... Being that we're more into serious relationships things will start to fall into place as we age a little more. A lot of people just want to mess around and have a good time right now, without dealing with any complications... Sure it's hard to have to wait, but things will get better and I really believe that dating will get easier within the next couple of years (I'm around the same age as you...).
When girls are looking into getting serious about relationships, they'll start looking more in the right places. For the moment, just get out and do your thing, and have fun... Besides, you never know who you might meet in the meantime!2