A year ago I met a guy who asked me out (he is from Brazil but lives here 8yrs). I told him no because he is 11 years younger. He tried for a few weeks then gave up. Eight months later out of the blue he starts calling me again. WE have gone out three times and are about to spend a weekend together this weekend (3rd date he tried to sleep w/me I said no),
Also on our third date he told me a "friend" was coming from Brazil to stay for a month (a girl). I was looking at his facebk and saw who he was talking about--a very pretty girl he met while visiting his home. He spent a month with her there and left about a month ago. It is obvious from the pictures they like each other.
He told me he will be spending all of his time with her, taking her to all kinds of fun places (he actually told me where he was taking her). Things I haven't done in years (big things) that I would love to go do. she is staying with him (obviously in his bed).
He says he wasn't expecting this to take off between us like it did, and she has already bought the tickets, etc. He wants me to be patient about it and says she will be here then she will be gone and we can continue on if we want.
Why did he even start asking me out again knowing she was coming? This weekend he is planning on us spending the weekend together at the coast. She will be here on Monday.
I told him I can't be with him fully the way he wants me to be because immediately afterward he will be with her for a whole month (every day doing fun things).what should I do?
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See... I told you this was gonna end up bothering you, and you haven't even slept with him yet. I would bet this girl bought her plane ticket a LOOOOOONG time ago. But he made a move on you anyway. He wants his cake and to eat it too, period.
If this guy was truly serious about you then he will not have sex with this girl. If she sleeps in his bed, then he will sleep on the couch or on the floor (which I doubt he'll do for a month). The fact is, he's gonna try to have sex with you this weekend, and then in the next month while she's here, he will have sex with her. Do you really want to be the opening act for a gal who's gonna get wined & dined by him? Maintain some self respect. Yes, I know how badly you WANT to have sex with him, but your repeated questions proves your heart is invested in this relationship and you'll be betraying yourself if you sleep with him.1
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