Anything they SHOULD and should NOT do to maintain being your girlfriend?
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DISCLAIMER - The following is from my observations of relationships that have gone bad amongst other guy friends. I have never had a girlfriend so my advice isn't from first hand experience, just outside empirical observation and hypothesis. Consider my advice, but do not follow it until someone more experienced actually confirms what I am saying (I could be wrong, after all)
*Let him know you want to keep the relationship going but want to know how he feels. However, do not ask this question multiple times! Just ask it in a very serious manner when you are in an intimate setting ONCE. Make sure he has your complete attention and isn't doing ANY other activity but focusing on you. If he feels like it cannot continue then you should break-up with him. It can only end in agony if you do not -sorry, but it's true 99% of the time.
*Ask him if there is anything you have been doing that has been getting on his nerves (only once or twice). If he says there is, don't snap back and become upset immediately -actually try to figure out why he feels like this from his perspective and determine what you can do to change (ONLY if you find the change agreeable; otherwise you should really question why you want to continue this relationship)
*Follow him around and spy on him because you think he is cheating on you. If he is, you will either find out in a dramatic moment and everything will end painfully. If he isn't, he will think you are a bitch for not trusting him and then he will have one more reason to actually break-up with you.
*Be so clingy as to never let the guy hang around with his guy friends for drinking and dude-ing out. If you are so paranoid you can ask to tag along on a dude party once, but honestly there's a reason it's guys only (hint: it either involves a lot of drinking, farting, and being disgusting, or it involves playing Dungeons and Dragons -I'm serious)
*Worry about him cheating. Honestly, I think most genuinely good guys would end one relationship before starting a new one. If he doesn't then you really don't want to continue this relationship.
If he tells you "it's over" even once, that means it really is over for good. Even if he comes back to you it will be over again and again. It will turn into a cycle of him coming back to you and then leaving repeatedly -this foundation will never be stable and you will eventually go insane and end things yourself. Only then will the healing begin. Also you will almost definitely turn into a bitch from the relationship as a result.
Finally, this is all from an outside perspective of a 27 year-old man virgin observing his more successful friends. Don't listen to me unless someone confirms some of my statements, okay?5