So back story: I went to see my ex for a friendly dinner after I had been talking to this guy online for about a month (which is about the same amount of time my ex and I had been broken up for). Guy I'd been talking to had suspicions of me not being over my ex. He found out that I went to see my ex and deleted me off facebook/myspace. I talked to him the next day and explained to him what happened.. that I had to go see my ex to put my feelings at bay and we also had the talk that a relationship between me and my ex would never happen again because of the distance. I told the guy I'd been talking to that I regret going to see my ex because I more than likely upset him (new guy). He said I didn't upset him; I just pretty much confirmed the suspicion he had all along. I told him if it would make things right I would completely cut off contact with my ex and for good.
I told him if he really didn't want to talk to me anymore, then say the magic words and I will leave him alone, but *I* personally do still want to talk to him. He said he hasn't decided yet and that he pretty much knew that I wasn't over my ex so he purposely backed himself off, and that the following night kind of made it worse. It's been two days and he hasn't talked to me yet. I said my piece to him so he could decide what he wanted to do. I'm trying to give him space since it hasn't been that long. I would think if he didn't want anything to do with me he wouldn't had said that he still really hasn't decided yet. Would you tell a girl up front that she messed up and you won't give her another chance? It seems like he's contemplating what to do. I also don't know if I should text him and tell him to let me know if/when we're cool again, cause I do miss talking to him.
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I'd do the exact same thing this guy did. If you're still talking to an ex, I don't want to be near you, even if I like you. I've been in that situation before, and everyone ends up feeling burned.
Depending on how you handled it, I might not rule out dating you again. I might say, "Call me if you're ever ready to date again." But I'd back off and move ahead with my life.
I don't know that I'd say "You blew it, honey." That sounds arrogant and presumptuous. Especially if he likes you, and is confused.