My boyfriend is the absolute worst texter and I hate it!
He almost always has his phone, because when I'm with him he is texting a lot. So why does it often take 30 min, an hr, 2 hrs to text me back?!
It's been like this since the day I met him, it's not like a change, it's just the way he is. but I wanna know why he does this to me when I am pretty sure he responds quickly when making plans with his guy friends?
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That's how guys are - texting is an asynchronos form of communication, like email. You reply when you want, or when you have something to say
If you want an instant reply, make a phone call.
He may respond quickly when he's making plans with his guy friends, but that's a completely different situation. Guys (when they do text) are minimalists. Ask question, get answer, hang up.
I doubt your texts are anything like that. You want a conversation, not the time you're meeting at the local bar.
That's a quick responder amongst guys. It is the guy's responsibility to slow down the relationship for the good of the relationship. Guys do this to define the boundaries of their space and thus provide a comfortable pace to their interactions with you. I never text a girl I am dating while I'm at work because I don't want her to think it's okay because it isn't. It's disruptive and would lead to frustration that I would have to repress or discuss with her.
My boyfriend is the same way. He has mentioned he isn't much of a texter, though. He also doesn't have his phone wih him 24/7. He pays attention to me when we're together, so I could care less if it takes him longer than most people, to text back.