What do you do when you are in different places emotionally?
We both have strong feelings for each other, and I'm at a point where I want to be in a relationship. It's been almost four months now of dating, seeing each other most days and nights. I know if we keep dating NOT in a relationship, I will just end up getting hurt (because if he's not ready now, he never will be).
He cares a lot about me and doesn't want to stop dating me, he just isn't ready for a relationship.
I don't get what this means. I know him better than anyone and I know that what it boils down to is he is terrified of losing his freedom (he's a total guy's guy). But I'm such an easygoing girl, I never get upset with him when he spends time with his guys, I've never been clingy and to be honest I know a lot of other guys in our situation would date me in a second. But I don't want other guys, I want HIM.
Help me... do I cut him loose? Or give him time? Does absence make the heart grow fonder, or will he just forget about me if I disappear?
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You can say you're not clingy or that you're easygoing - but you're ready to dump this allegedly great guy just because he doesn't want a formal relationship.
That's not the definition of an easy going girl. That's a girl who wants a relationship, and doesn't really care who it's with.
You can date this great guy, and not have a relationship,
Or you can have the relationship with some other guy, probably not as great as this guy.
And you're going to pick the relationship, because that's what girls do.
You need security, more than you want a good man.0