I hear about people in terms of dating, talking about having "baggage", about how a guy / girl has too much "baggage"...
...i'll admit I've said to a girl I was dating "check your baggage at the door" when we were getting serious.
But...i never gave serious thought to what "baggage" is.
What parts of one's past do you consider "baggage" in yourself or others?
Please give examples of what you consider "baggage" in your past, or in the past of others you know, so we understand how you define this term.
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"Baggage" is anything that could be a deal-breaker. It makes us human but needs to be handled delicately. For me when dating others, this is usually insecurities from past relationships. I don't want to hear about the other girls. One guy kept going on and on about how his exes didn't understand his job, total turn-off for me, because we had the same time of job and I felt him he was saying I was going to act like that! Another was severely depressed and he told me this within days of meeting him, it was too much and he didn't have a handle on it.
Then comes various illnesses, usually mental. In my own case, my "baggage" includes depression and severe social anxiety. Not pleasant, and it can affect how I act so it becomes baggage. I also have a cheating ex and a player in my past... but I don't count those because I've moved on, I learned something and I don't let it cloud future relationships.
So in conclusion, for me, "baggage" is the mental and emotional scars that come from life's experiences that affect who we are in often negative ways. Everyone has it, it is how you deal with it that matters. I know I have depression and social anxiety, I know what sets it off and I deal with it accordingly. I don't share it as a "poor me" story, actually, unless I must, I don't share it.1