I've been dating a guy I met online for a couple weeks now, and there has been a total of three dates. The first one was drinks, and we slept together; the second one was dinner, but he had to call it a night to finish some work before he flew to the south early the next morning...we made out to say goodbye; the last time, we saw a movie (during the day), had coffee and walked through the park, and we just hugged. Every time we part ways he'll initiate plans for next time, and he'll text me. He's super busy, flying everywhere, all over the world for his job, but he makes time for me. I love that he travels so much, because he sees a lot and we have really interesting conversations about it, and I want a low-maintenance kind of thing.
What baffles me is why we're not physically intimate anymore. Time/scheduling doesn't seem to permit, but he loved how I was in bed the first time we saw each other...my first suspicion was that he's seeing other women, but I'm not sure that's the case, since he's always on business trips and has a day or two in our city tops. While I can't say we're exclusive, I'm not too worried that he's aggressively dating around. I'm also kind of relieved that there's no pressure to put out, even though he pays for everything.
What's going on here?
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I agree with HardAppleCider, talk to him.
It could be anything from he knows what your like in bed, he's getting it somewhere else, to he's just plain knackered.
Speak to him. Arrange a date like the first you had. Go for a meal and drinks, something initimate and romantic. Be brave and suggest going back to your place - the man shouldn't make all the moves - and see what happens from there.
You never know... If he's chatted up enough you might not even make it home...! ;)
But in all seriousness, this is one of those, we can guess and make you feel a million times better or crying in bed questions. We cannot tell you the true answer. Put yourself in his shoes after all!
One thing to think about...how have his past relationships been if you know? Maybe you should ask him if you don't know? Like, have you ever made a relationship work before kinda question?
Best of luck hun2
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