So in the real world I have pretty good luck with women. I'm intelligent, funny, and confident, so I tend to attraction attention and interest from a wide variety of people. Makes it pretty easy for me to ask women out/get a date (when they're single at least). My personality is obviously a big strong point for me.
But I decided to try online dating since I haven't really been finding anybody that's right for me in terms of maturity and mutual interests. I want somebody who I can talk to and feel like I'm having a real stimulating conversation with, which I can't seem to come across in real life (nice girls, but there's just not much a spark there 99% of the time). But I'm getting NOOOOO luck on this online dating thing. Like no responses at all. Well, scratch that, I had 2-3 out of like 30+ messages (I don't spam message, I actually do read, mention something that caught my interest, usually just a paragraph and a question) but both of those died off after one initial response that left little to go off of.
So I'm just not sure where I'm going wrong here. More than half the people I message don't even check out my profile (which kind of sucks when you spent the time to read and comment about a mutual interest and such) so it's got me wondering what's the deal? Is it boiling down to looks? I'm no Ryan Gosling but the difference is really night and day. Obviously the perspective of women who have used online dating before would be particularly helpful here. Thanks in advance.
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Online dating sucks. Most of the girls there are emotionally damaged and just prefer that you validate their ego via lots of messages, but with no real intention of meeting up with you in person. As man who has also had luck dating girls in the offline world, I was shocked at how much I was ignored online. Brother, do yourself a favor and stick to the offline world. Your investment and quality of the returns on your investment will be much higher!0