I tend to be more comfortable texting girls and setting up things and just checking up on a girl. At the same time I don't know if this is shooting myself in the foot. When I am calling or face to face with a girl I just can't seem to figure out what to say. There are times when I can be funny and outgoing, but when I am with a girl that I like all of sudden I am introverted and boring.
So I need advice on both whether I am shooting myself in the foot by solely texting?
Also my problem going from being extroverted and funny with my friends to just clamming up when I see a random attractive girl?
P.S. I just recently went out with a girl that I have texted solely maybe just called her once. Now it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and I see her pretty frequently. So it comes down to what should I do know? Normally when I do see a girl I got rejected by I just act like nothing is wrong and talk to them the same way. So maybe someone can help me with this part as well?
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People do tend to be more comfortable texting nowadays. I'm not sure why. I'm old fashioned and tend to prefer the phone for people in whom I'm actually interested. While it's cute to get a quick text or email from a guy during the day (to show he's interested or thinking about me), I don't like getting locked into the two-hour texting stints. Just pick up the phone or have lunch with the girl. (Sigh.)
I tell the guy up front that I'm not a textaholic and that I might take a while to even check my texts on any given day. I explain that I prefer to use a phone as a phone and to use email/message boards (bigger screen and better access for me) for messages. Text only if we're in a crowded place and trying to meet up... I've never had a problem with that system. Guys tend to like that I'm up front about my communication style so there are no surprises and I'm not "playing the waiting game" with them. (Wish everyone would do the same, haha.)1
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