How do I tell someone I've known for 10+ years that ever since she started dating this guy she's changed, and not for the better?
She started dating him just over a year ago and they're already engaged (getting married within the year). Ever since they've been together, she's been different. I can't really put my finger on how, but I haven't liked her as much since. And since they've been engaged, everything is what HE says, she doesn't seem to get an opinion on anything.
He doesn't want to meet her friends (I've met him once and some of her wedding party -that live in town- won't get to meet him until the rehearsal dinner). He doesn't seem to care and she doesn't seem bothered.
He's made her cancel plans with me at least twice.
I want to tell her that I don't really like her since she's been with him, but don't know how best to say it.
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Just let her know you wanna talk to her. Meet up with her and tell her how you feel. Not like: YOU've changed. More like: I get the feeling you're acting different lately. Make sure you use the words "I feel like" instead of blaming it all on her. Don't state things as a fact but as how you see it. Tell her you'd appreciate if if her husband-to-be made an effort to get to know his wifes friends. Sometimes a guy doesn't bother because some of her friends aren't his kind of people, but then you'll have to accept that. As long as she still makes plans with you... But it's normal that, when people grow up, some friends are lost. In high school it's easy, after school you meet up, in the weekends, you meet up, ... But when people move on with their life, like getting a serious boyfriend, moving in, getting a job, ...you don't always have that much time for friends.
If you're friends with her for such a long time, she'll understand what's bothering you and she'll listen.0