Disclaimer: This question is sort of rooted in complaining. I recently dated a girl who on the first date she mentioned about how she slept with a stranger at a party. On the second date we watched a movie and I put my arm around her and kissed her after a while and she clearly wasn't into it and after that she stopped answering texts. Up until the kiss everything was going great. We didn't have a single awkward moment and seemed to get along famously. But if she is has hooked up with strangers only hours after meeting them, what is wrong with a kiss on the 2nd date?
Also I have had issues with other girls like this where they have told me that they are sexually open but they want to make me wait. My issue with this is if a guy is willing to take you out and engage you as a person, he is going to be nicer to you than some guy you hook up with at a party and you will get more mileage out of him no matter what your intentions are. Also this turns me off pretty immediately because the way I see it is that this girl views me as weak. Like my desires don't matter as much as her hookups she barely knows and holding out will make me easier to manipulate. Why don't we just get the sex out of the way when it comes up and you just treat me like a person, amirite guys?
What is the reasoning behind this? I understand that one night stands and quick flings happen. But why do girls make guys who take them on dates and connect with them wait?
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It's simple. Girls make the guys who take them out wait because they can actually see themselves with that guy and don't want to do anything to screw it up. By holding out on him, she can determine whether or not he is boyfriend material or just another jerk looking to hook up.
The girl that you kissed on the second date probably thought you assumed she would put out just because of a guy she slept with at a party. Which, technically, you did. But I do see that sex was not your ultimate goal. You just have to understand that it's hard for girls to determine the difference with guys sometimes because players are just too good at mimicking the real nice guys.
Is it annoying and frustrating to you guys? Yes, but at least I answered your question... lol4
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