I don't think there should be rules to follow when dating I think it puts too much stress on a person because they think they have to act a certain way.
Just do your own thing!
Guys and girls do you follow dating tips that you see in magazines?
ps who came up with the Do's and Don'ts of dating? ;)
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The general rule of thumb used to be what Dave Chappelle said: "101 ways to please your man, by some woman." Basically, women giving other women dating advice about men was a disaster waiting to happen. An equally useless situation was when women would try to give "dating advice" to men. It would go something like this:
1. Go up and talk to her, women like confidence in a man.
2. Open up emotionally and make yourself vulnerable, women like a man who's sensitive.
3. Don't let her pay, ever, unless you're cheap.
4. [Insert other things you want your ideal man to do for you here], [insert emotional blackmail or other self-serving rule/justification here].
I say that "used" to be the rule, because then the PUA movement started, which was really some new-wave anti-feminist movement. Now, I know some female anti-feminists are going to say that feminism actually helps PUAs, so, feminism and PUA-ism aren't really at odds but are in perfect harmony. I agree and understand, the same way that being female and critical of feminism are in perfect harmony.
Yet, as open-minded as we can be about the world, men giving men and women "dating advice" basically sounds like this:
1. Ignore her, you don't want to come across as some loser she usually rejects.
2. Don't pay for anything, you don't want to be taken for a ride like the last 10 guys.
Dating tips for women, by some man:
1. [Insert fluffy useless crap here]
2. Blow him daily.
3. [More useless fluffy crap here]
4. Make him food.
5. [More useless crap to make advise seem legit]
6. If you need more than 8 hours of your man's time per week, you don't need a boyfriend, you need a therapist!
7. [More useless crap, maybe a personality quiz]
8. Put out more often, preferably daily, or on demand.
So, both men and women have come full-circle in that they both publish self-serving and insecurity-driven "dating advice" both for the opposite gender to read and for the same sex to read. At the end of the day, the best strategy is to completely ignore this information warfare and just do your own thing.2