If you're attracted to a girl and you both get along and there is obvious chemistry between the both of you, would things like distance or school or anything else circumstantial make you decide not to date her? Or what other factors could make you not want to date her, if any?
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Lots of guys don't want relationships at all for most of their sexual peak years (around 16-25), and particularly in their college years. Their priority is fun and freedom, and they feel like a relationship would be way too restricting and might cause them to miss out on some fun. Yes, that's pretty immature, but it IS their sexual peak years, and thinking this way does mean that a lot of guys get a lot of sex with a lot of different girls, so you have to admit that they have a point.
Assuming the guy is interested in relationships in general, the reason he might not choose to have one with a girl he's attracted to is going to be due to a serious incompatibility. Common incompatibilities would be:
- Family issues
- Location (where you will live, or being physically separated)
- Sex (openness, libido, frequencies, kinks, etc.)
I'm sure there are others, but you get the idea.
LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. If you don't have good compatibility, you aren't going to be able to have a long-term relationship with that person. Books and movies rarely talk about that, and in that fantasy world, love often "conquers all", but in the real world, it doesn't work that way.1
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