I am 43 years old, coming out of a long term relationship, and wanting to give online dating a shot, not for the fun of it, but to find a partner. I look very young for my age, most guess 35 and I'm wondering if it's really a big deal to lie and say I'm 38 in my profile (instead of 43)?
I look young. I'm very active, in great shape, probably act younger than my age and have always dated women much younger than me, 7-12 years younger. Most women I've dated said they normally wouldn't have dated someone my age but once they got to know me, it wasn't a big deal because I seemed so much younger.
The reason I'd lie in my profile is
1) so I wouldn't get shot down right off the bat because of my age if I emailed a woman
2) so I would show up in search results of women in the age range I'd be looking at.
3) I'm looking at partners 32-38.
I know it's not a great way to start off a relationship with a potential future wife, but I feel once I met her, and she got to know me, she might be understanding.
I also want to have kids so women around my age would make it difficult.
Is it really a big deal?
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Imagine if you found out a woman lied some about her appearance, height, weight, or hey even er age, so that she could get in the door? Granted, you'd find out a lot quicker once you met her the first time if it was appearance based, but it doesn't feel so great being deceived. You may want to date younger women (go figure) but they may not want to date you. They have that right. So if you don't want people lying about themselves, maybe she's a woman in her 40's lying about her age too because she looks so good, then don't do it to them. Just because you look young and prefer younger women is no excuse.0