Why do guys continue to date and sleep with girls when they don't want a casual thing? Besides the obvious reasons.
This guy I was dating and sleeping with. I mentioned I did not want casual and he was pretty vague with his response. Also got a non answer like I will see where it goes. Still I shrug that off and accept that. I did not want to pressure him into anything too soon.
After about a month or so. Things did not seem to be progressing in any way, saw a couple of red flags. I mention to him if this is a friends with benefits thing. I do not want to be a part of it. He ends it.
It is still pretty confusing when I think back to that because I do not understand why he did not end it when I mentioned I did not want a casual relationship earlier on. Why would he keep dating and sleeping with me without any intention of a relationship knowing that?
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It's a rare man who will turn down sex in a situation like that. Sure you said you were looking for a long term relationship. He was working it out as he went along. Who knows. There might have even been times he thought that was a good idea, but men just don't meet a woman and work out where they're going right from the start. If they're enjoying themselves they'll stay. If they're having second thoughts you do start seeing those red flags. I'm glad you paid attention to them. It's possible he strung you along. It's also equally possible that wasn't intentional. Google Evan Marc Katz - he's written some very enlightening things on men's behavior to try and help us understand what's going on. It's easy to assume the worst; but sometimes the hurt caused by men behaving like this is entirely unintentional. Other times they're just pricks; hopefully you know which category he belongs in.0