I go to a mostly white school. My Best friends are white and I have friends. I still feel like I don't completely fit in tho. Because I am black people aren't as open to me. They assume stereotypes and believe foolish things. I go to an all girl catholic school. I've been catholic since I was born.. My parents are catholic and so are my brothers. People don't believe that because I am black tho. I have never worn weave and I have pretty good hair and yet people ask me ALL THE TIME if my hair is real or not. Guys at my brother school don't really talk to me because I am black and they are white. The black guys that are there are not my type and if they are they are into white girls. I feel like I am a fat pig because I have a different shape from everyone else but I am not fat.. I'm just not super skinny. I am an athlete and my main sort is volleyball but everyone assumes basketball. People accredit my speed and vertical to the fact that I am black and not to the fact that I work out hard to improve as an athlete. People also assume I am not very smart but I take all honor classes and some classes with upperclassmen and my GPA is 4.3 which is the highest you can get at my school. I have dated black and white guys and when girls find out you dated white guys they think I am lying. Being at a mainly white school I feel like I will never completely fit in and I am becoming less comfortable with who I am day by day because of it. My question is whàt should I do to become comfortable with me again? Why can't black girls talk to all races like other people? I just want to know what stereotypes effect you and how they make you feel?(this question goes for all stereotypes of all races and people) and please don't comment about how this is another desperate cry from a black girl because it is not. I'm just curious on how stereotypes make you feel in your everyday life..
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1) Times are a'changin'. it probably is gonna result in something-along-the-lines-of mass racial integration -- even more than we have now. less 'oh you're black' more 'oh you're Lauryn' or whoever.
2) I would consider leaving. I support Catholicism (am one myself) - but your enviornment is 'everything' in a way - I miserated through high school hun, but not when I saw my girlfriend at our locker or my friends in school. it would've been really bad otherwise. consider a 'whatever'-school - art-school, sport(? do they have those)-- sport-school. something where you can shine.
3) black girls can be pretty attractive -- I was sort of 'sucked in' once at a barnes & noble in some state in the south when I was 18 to a vortex of love with a very pretty black girl... very smart, quiet, carried herself strong =) -- we probably would've made out in the barnes & noble cafe-backroom if we had lingered for another second. we sort of instinctively gathered by the creamer (cups (half&half loloXX)) without speaking from where she was working behind the cafe counter... it sort of was like a VERY close stand/reach... I can't explain, but it was hot & I was 'definitely interested'. lol I was about one second away from having a powerful makeout session to the side of her work counter lol. I would still be interested in seeing her =) she was hot. I don't think it's so much race as her personality & (ok) looks that drew me nearer-than-you-should, you know lol standing in a public place (she slid in front of me, bravely -- not some cooky/creepy thing -- ). lauryn hill is pretty hot - I won't name off "black girls" but honestly. black girls can strong, powerful, honest, poised - that is attractive. don't count yourself out - haha
4) I think it would be helpful to have a 4th point. I know, I'll ask a question - you don't have to answer - are you Up North or Down South (i'm assuming you're in the Yoo Ess)? it still is pretty separated but I encourage you to watch the last Democratic National Convention video (they won't let me link) -- We are becoming super integrated. you're young & should get a good 'lift' from that in your life, if you are in a place where you are misinterpreted / misunderstood.
Good Luck =) if you ARE (just kidding) that girl. . . . xxx
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