When my boyfriend and I went on a break, he took this girl who does beauty pageants to a few of his college events as a date. She's a pretty girl, don't get me wrong. But she only looks stunning when she's all done up with the fake tan, bleached blond hair, makeup, and professional photography. I know her personally, and outside of that she reminds me of Regina from Mean Girls. Stuck up and air-headish.She is, however, skinny, pretty, and a beauty pageant star.
I'm considered very attractive by most. Above average, but I'm not beauty pageant girl. Just never my thing. I dress up like a girlie girl, but I spent more time getting my degree and working out for myself than I did getting spray tans for my next photoshoot. My boyfriend and I are back together now, and I know from my boyfriend's relationship history that he's had the strongest emotional connection with me than any other girl. He tells me how beautiful I am all the time, and can't keep his hands off me in bed together.
My problem is, I can't get over thinking he sees this beauty pageant girl as being better than me. Higher status maybe because of her looks and pageants, even though a lot would say we're equal in attractiveness when she's not dressed up for a show. He never talks about her, but when I've made comments in the past about her pictures with tons of guys (she has a new date for her sorority parties every weekend, and she's always hanging all over them drunk), he comes to her defense and says that he thinks she's a virgin or something. Besides that, he's never commented about wanting to date her or thinking she's attractive.
What do you guys think? Is he settling for me because she's a pretty loose canon and he didn't think he could keep her? Or does he really value me as the whole package more?
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I think that either way he is with you now. You need to try and not be jelous or vengeful. If he is not bringing her up, then you shouldn't either. Don't comment on her pictures, or call her a slut, just leave it be. If you take him back as your boyfriend, then you are taking him and everything he has done in the past. I know its not easy, but you either have to live with it quietly or break up with him again. Otherwise it will lead to you being jelous, him getting angry, and everything will become a mess.0