I had a girl introduce us at our church June of 2011. She was young, and immature at the time, which I wasn't aware of. She threw me under the bus online, and left me high and dry for a guy who claimed to know me that fall. She really did a number on me. I've been stable for a few months now, and I've moved back home with my folks temporarily. I've gotten a few accounts with some dating sites for young adults and college students both. Unfortunately I have to see the ex girlfriend every Sunday at church which is an obstacle in itself, but I've been blowing her off. I haven't ever had much luck with the dating sites, so I'm not sure if it's embarrassing or not. I've seen several girls I'd love to date but I go genuinely care for the ex girlfriend. She's young and defensive and shallow, but I'm working on focusing on myself. I'm just wondering how I should perceive this?
Is it bad to be young and on datings sites?
What Girls Said
I'm confused on the last 3 sentences here.
I would tell you that if you do date other people it will help you get over the ex.
If she is young and immature move on and just chalk it up to growing pains!
What Guys Said
It sounds like you don't exactly know what you want. On the other hand as you said the girl did a number on you, so getting a few dating site accounts isn't embarrassing at all. But on the other hand you genuinely care for the girl, so looking at the dating sites seems pointless, I mean, before you even consider dating any other girls, you really should get you head in order. If you really care for the girl then either get rid of those feelings and move on or try and get the relationship running again. Your choice, but having feelings for a girl while you are trying the dating game isn't smart and could quite likely bite you and the girl you might end up trying to date and that won't be fun for anyone.