What do you consider as "baggage", that you would see in a date?
And, if you did date someone who you liked that did have baggage how much of it would you accept?
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I think baggage refers to anything extra that you would have to deal with that you may not want to deal with. ie: kids, exs, lots of debt, IRS debt, dysfunctional family, traumatic upbringing that they haven't emotionally dealt with.
I started texting & talking on the phone with a guy from a dating site. We seemed to hit it off okay over the phone. But then I learned that he's been living with the same female friend for 9 years and most of that time she didn't pay rent because she didn't have a job, nor does she drive - so basically he was carrying her financially. He swore that they were not sexual and never dated. Currently she does have a job but he drives her to & from work every day. This all did not sound like a healthy situation.
The final blow occurred when we were on the phone one night and she was somewhere in his vicinity and out of the blue she just started yelling & cursing like crazy. She was so loud I had to hold the phone out from my ear. I was disappointed that instead of getting up and leaving the room, the guy tried talking to her about whatever she was bitching about. I later texted that no one should be subjected to that kind of ugliness. He was aware that his living situation was not a good one and wants to move out on his own but from what he said about this roomy, she is not going to make that easy for him. I decided that this kind of co-dependent relationship he was in now is NOT something I want in my life so I stopped talking to him.1