Pardon my ignorance but I don't really have much experience in the dating department. I'd say at least for guys it's a numbers game. In the past I've always kind of taken on one girl at a time and tried to get her to like me and get a date but that just wastes too much time. No wonder guys go out and try to get all these girls numbers and go on dates without really putting too much into it. If you get feelings for one girl and get stuck on this one girl, all you're doing is wasting your time and energy. This is my worst habit is that I put too much faith into one girl and then I end up upset mainly with myself for wasting a bunch of time when she doesn't feel the same way. So I've basically learned to just go out, approach a girl and don't think too much about it and then move on to the next one and hopefully you'll have enough phone numbers to get one that might actually want a date. Opinions guys?
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You're partially right. It's a numbers game for everyone right in the beginning, it just may not seem that way for women since men typically do the approaching. When it comes to meeting girls and asking for numbers, I would say play the numbers. First dates, play some. But after that, it's really about building a relationship with the right person. You may face a lot of rejection, but it's the same for us girls too. We don't know if the guy likes us, if he just wants sex, or if he's going to call us after. It's a risk for everyone involved.
That doesn't mean you need to cut everyone off right in the beginning for one person you barely know of course. If you have other options and there haven't even been first dates yet, then by all means. But if there is only one girl you want to go out with, there's nothing wrong with just going out with her. You having options on the side right at that moment will not make her any more or less interested in you. Unless she asks, you probably shouldn't be saying that you've got another date with someone else tomorrow anyway lol You can only be yourself and see if it works.
Most of the relationships I got into, the guys were obviously out meeting girls a lot, but none of them were going on other dates (I found this out after we were together). I wouldn't have minded if they were, but the options didn't make him more or less likely to succeed with me. So ultimately, I'd only play the number games when it actually comes to approaching women and trying to get their number. After that, it doesn't matter a whole lot except to gain experience.0