My ex was one, and I had no idea..
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I did. We just broke up a few months ago. For the most part you have no idea because they show you their false self, they become everything you've ever wanted in a mate and stop at almost nothing to impress you. Once they've determined that you've fallen deeply in love with them they feel that they have control over you. As time goes on though their false self starts fading away and the real person starts to show which is NOTHING like the person they showed you in the beginning.
At this point you now their emotional bunching bag and you are the reason for all the problems and issue that come up in the relationship. I mean of course you're selfish for wanting them to love you, spend time with you, and treat you with respect, who in their right mind would want that out of a relationship?! Amazingly narcissists have an amazing way of making everything your fault even when they were CLEARLY in the wrong. They even have this crazy way of making you somehow apologize for something that they did wrong! These people stop at nothing to make you feel worthless and broken. They project all of their feelings onto you, leaving you to carry all of it around while confused and hurt.
The best thing that you can do with a narcissist is to leave them alone. If possible cut all ties from them, that includes texts, phone calls, emails, and seeing them in person. I'm not sure if you have done research on them but I would recommend that you do. I recently started seeing a therapist to help me through this because he really left me thinking that I was crazy.
I hope the best for you with recovering from your relationship with a narcissist!1
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