I used to weigh 250lbs. I worked at starbucks, drank frappuccinos all day and hated my life. I always thought things would be better if I lost a lot of weight.
I took up distance running and after a slow weight loss of FIVE YEARS! I now weigh ~140lbs.
When I was large, guys liked me for me. Every single guy actually wanted to date ME and not the way I looked.
Now random creepy guys, arrogant a**holes and weirdos basically treat me as though they are entitled to me. I get asked out on dates and when I say no (because they don't know me and only like the way I look) they are very rude and say mean things. The actual nice sweet guys are too intimidated to talk to me now. You think it's easier to date when you're thin? Maybe, but no one want's you for YOU. They want the way you look.
I am a woman in the sciences at school. Before when I was large I was accepted there. Now, I am constantly told I shouldn't be there because I "don't look like a scientist." Everyone thinks I'm stupid because of the way I look and they didn't before when I was large. I constantly have to prove that I have a right to be there. If I get a good grade in a course, I'm told it's because I flirted with the teacher; this is not the case! People think this is a compliment, "wow! You're actually smart!" It's not. No one said that to me when I was large.
Women hate me. Women I have never met before are rude the second they meet me and if they can say no to something, they do regardless of what I asked. I lost all my girl friends because they think I'm going to steal their boyfriends. If I need to ask a department chair something at school, she says no even though it is not an unreasonable request.
I lost all my guy friends because as soon as they get girlfriends they're told they aren't allowed to be my friend anymore. If they do not have girlfriends even though I have told them all I am not interested in dating anyone at the current time they ask me out on dates and when I say no (as they should have known I would) they don't talk to me anymore.
I have no friends. I had a lot of friends when I was large. I have a lot of acquaintances but no friends.
I'm not a mean person. I really am not. I treat everyone with kindness as I have been on the receiving end of meanness for so long since I was very large.
So, if you want to lose weight, do it for you! Things don't get easier or better. People resent you for it and show it with unwarranted animosity.
Yes, random guys who don't know me are very nice to me and men do ask me out on dates, but as I said, they want my body, not my personality. When I used to date after a few they say I'm boring and that's that. I'm not boring; I'm a scientist. They wanted to date my looks, not me.
Before you attack me for saying it's hard being pretty, think of if you have been both very large and thin; if you have not, then you have not experienced this and you are only making assumptions.
The grass isn't greener.
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Wow! You're so mature and I have to admit that you have my respect.
I only have to say one thing. You won't find a man that won't be interested in your body. And even if you find one you won't like it. Try to understand that men may like you for your body, but it's not only that. Sexual attraction is indeed one big factor but men aren't only interested in that. I'll admit that there are many a**holes out there, but there are decent guys too. Don't shut them down just because they approached you for your outter appearence. Give them the chance to see how beautiful you are in the inside too.
As for your work, it's difficult for many people to believe that a girl can be stunning and inteligent alltogether. I never experienced that, and I probably never will so I shouldn't speak,but I will. Stand your ground. Sooner or later they will understand. And about the comments of you sleeping with someone to get a good grade, just ignore them. Most of the times it's just plain teasing. People try to get your attention.
Girls can be very jealous and mean. I usually have no problem with girl-girl relationships because I was never a 'threat' to them. You can meet friends online,and after they love you for your personality show them your outer appearence.
PS:''You must have a very beautiful face.'' That was my first thought while reading your story.0