Recently I have decided to be single for the next year. Mainly to focus on my job, and volunteering. As of recent, a lot of women have been coming forth, and initiating the want to either date, go on dates, or be intimate. All of those idea, but I've promised myself that I wouldn't do that for a one year period, and many women do not seem to understand.
I'm not one to lie to anyone about my intentions, and nor am I trying to play games.
What is the best way to turn down these women in a friendly manner, and therefore not cause issues? It seems that everyone of them is either trying harder, or hurt, because of my decision.
How can I just basically not be sucked into these idealistic situations of being hit on? I've tried not talking to women at bars, not being flirtatious, not being commandeering to the idea that I am interested, and I have resided from even social groups to try to avoid the women who are persistent .
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You tell them EXACTLY what you told us?
if not id say you secretly want the attention, though you really don't intend to get involved. or you really do want a relationship and don't want to follow your rules, but can't admit that,
truth is not confusing.
"a lot of women have been coming forth, and initiating the want to either date, go on dates, or be intimate. All of those idea, but I've promised myself that I wouldn't do that for a one year period, "
if you say EXACTLY that, I don't see why they wouldn't get it. and if they don't its not your problem. you were totally honest.
ive told guys I don't get into relationships. sometimes they don't believe me. but I dis tell them. so there's no reason for them to be confused. and that's that.
if you are honest there's no ay for them to not understand.
what happens when they 'dont understand'? you just keep living your life, following your obligations. sticking to your conviction. who cares if they pretend to not understand.0