He is 35 and I am 21. He has two kids that live in another country and his ex left him last june back to their home country. He said their relationship was not well when they broke up and had been that way for a year or two. He started dating me back in august. Everything was wonderful I broke up with my b.f at the time to be with him. Things were great up until december when he said he needed a couple of days for space. so fine we talked on the phone those couple of days and that was that. now his daughter is up from costa rica and she is 16 and he refuses to tell his ex that he is with some one b.c she is scared that she will take his money and refuse to let him see the kids. They were never married so I know that this not the case. but I am insecure in the relationship and I tell him that and I try to talk to him and he never listens he tells me to stop nagging and I do. I listen. I know not good but I do. I love him very much and I have not called him all the time or text him to bring him close again and it seems to have done the opposite. He refuses to find time for me or try to sneak away from his daughter to see me. He never tells me he loves me he just says me too and he never tells me that he misses me. I have not seen him in three weeks except for an hour on thursday and that was me bringing him home form the airport. Don't you think he would want to see me or at least try to sneak away?
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There's nothing wrong with trying on an older man now and then but the 14 years between you two tells me all I need to know. Your gentleman friend comes with a boatload of baggage, children who don't dig Dad's girlfriend, an ex wife who won't dig Dad's girlfriend, and a growing impatience with his paramour. Unfortunately, Dad has all the control and doesn't mind telling how you ought to behave.
You're the perfect lover for him. You're naive, impressionable, inexperienced, and willing to put up with loads of horse poop from this man because you don't know any better. Sorry, but the cynical filter does apply here. You're very young and probably quite sexy, which will drive his ex insane. You have youth and boundless passion, so Dad won't feel quite as dated by the impending divorce. You're unsure of your boundaries, so you're easy to manage. You won't ask for much, just some love and attention, but you'll only get it as his convenience.
Screw your gentleman's words. Look at his actions. Does he treat you like an adult woman? Does he go out of his way to make you feel special? Has he followed through with any of his smooth talkin'? I hate saying this, but you are the ultimate rebound tryst for this gentleman.
Go find yourself a man in his twenties who can't wait to come home and cook dinner with you. If you stay inside this mess, you're going to get hurt from so many different directions, it ain't even funny.3