I'm 22, never been kissed, never really dated except for online dates and that didn't go to well.
Should I pursue this thing with a guy I met online from pof and I'm not into at all. All I've seen is one pic and he's from my ethnic background and he looks attractive. However, I've spoken to him on the phone he has an accent and I don't like his personality at this point, he talks in my language randomly. I'm born and raised in Toronto and I want a Canadian boy (someone from here regardless of ethnicity). Should I go on this date and try it out b.c. my other pof experiences have been so crappy. I never get approached tho:(
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You could, but if he asks, or if it becomes too serious, you need to be honest about how you feel.
The first girl I dated, we went out; I didn't even think of it as a date; a month later, a mutual friend was telling me how she was interested. So I kept the idea open, she seemed OK. I was open to going out with her, but she wasn't someone I knew enough at the time to be interested in (or not interested in). I gave it a try - first date, we argued (though I was respectful); turned out I was correct, but didn't rub it in. The mutual friend was telling me what a great time she had (uh, ok); so we decided on a second date, then a third... and I was starting to be interested in her (ok, interested in who she was pretending to be). So the interest developed, and I became really interested in her, though not overly interested; no love sonnets or undying love comments or anything; so considering where it was in the relationship, it was nice.
Some might say that it's a huge mistake to do that; and maybe I'm going about it in the wrong way, or maybe I think differently from most people. But I was open to it, and I kinda fell for her; she wasn't what I would have gone for; wasn't my ideal type in the looks department; but because I kept a somewhat open mindset, it was a good experience (outside of her lying and cheating), and I learned some things about myself that I probably would not have learned otherwise.
So, as long as you're smart, and cautious, and you're honest with him and yourself, go for it.