It's so emotionally painful. The thought of going out with friends to a place frightens me. So just I spend most nights in or hanging out with my brother.
The thing is, I have a lot of friends and they invite me out a lot but I say "No, thank you" and stay in. In part, it's because I work full time, starting at 6 each day (my only days off are Tuesday, Wednesday) and they usually party until, well all night actually.
I'm quite social at work. At work I am the opposite.
Anyway, here it is: I've wanted a girlfriend for a really long time and for the first time ever, I think I am ready and mature enough to have one. I yearn to have a special someone, but how can I when I lead such an anti-social life?
I haven't made a close friend since moving to a new city almost 2 years ago.
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you are just comfortable with your used to... work is predictable, get there at this time, leave at this time, do this job, work with the same people... when you go out with friends the only goal is to have a good time and you sort to have to put in more work to make things exciting and fun... once you go out more it will feel more natural, you will get used to meeting new people and showing your true personality rather than just being "Hi, I'm bob I'll be your waiter tonight" or whatever your name and job is, you get the picture right? I think its really common (for guys especially) to make their work their identity, which isn't horrible, you are embracing something where you are being productive and making money for yourself, but it makes you a much more interesting person to be able to be successful in relationships, friendships, hobbies... don't let your work consume you... it is just a job... I don't know if this relates to you though, but just something I wanted to add, it may or may not help.. some of the closest guys to me in my life are like this:/0