So here it goes: I was communicating with a guy via email on a dating website that I was very interested in.
-We talked on the phone 1st time 26 Dec- great conversation. Asked me on a date for Friday (28).
-27th- cancels date for the 28 because he is sick (I heard him on the phone and he really was sick)
-28- he calls me and we talk for a while. I may have said some things that turned him off but not sure!
30- I text him to ask how he's feeling. maybe he didn't understand my sense of humor in text. we text back and forth.
Today: Jan 4- still have not heard from him- no text, no call, nothing. I know he was still very sick on the 30th so maybe he is not over it, I don't know. I really liked this guy and want to keep communicating with him. However, I initiated the last contact on the 30th and am weary to do so again.
So, what should I do? I was thinking of texting him either: "hi, how are you feeling?" or "i hope there isn't somehting I said that was off-putting" (something like that)
should I just wait for him to contact me
assume this is it for us?
*On Sunday it will have been a week since we have talked.
If a guy likes a girl, even slightly, he'll go out of his way to let her know... and if he has your number he'll use it. The fact that he hasn't is a clear indication that he's not really interested.
Once an impression is made it's over.
Your best bet is to NOT contact him and to start putting your efforts towards someone else worthy of your attention... don't waste any further efforts on Mr. Not Interested... it's only going to erode your self esteem and confidence.
There are plenty of men looking to meet a great girl, so go give them a chance now. :)
After 4 days it is OK to communicate again. I would call him personally to see how he is feeling. Comes off more strong..If no answer, leave a short message and ask him to give you a call when he is up to it.
Nothing about is it something you said...just keep it simple.
If he does not communicate back for 3 days...forgetboutit!... His loss...
You should feel to contact him, but being a online dating veteran it does sound like he's not into you (sorry). If a guy likes a girl he will text, call, or email as much as he can. He could be playing hard to get but if he is than he's probably not someone you should pursue.
I would definitely text him a "how are you feeling", but be prepared if he doesn't text you back.
My initial reaction is that he either met someone else or is just not really into you and doesn't know how to tell you
Wait for him to contact you. He canceled the date, didn't reschedule, and you made last contact. No need to ask if you said anything off-putting, it will come across as insecurity. Confidence will make you look more attractive at this point. And there's no point in trying to get the right answer "Is this it, or not?" Treat it like you should be treating it, things aren't progressing with a guy you haven't even been on a date with. No harm, no foul, don't get so invested in someone you hardly know or take it personally.
Instead of thinking, "Oh no, I said something wrong and I need to fix it," think, "Hey this guy bailed on a date and hasn't been a very good communicator. I'm not sure this is a guy I'd want to date, but since I hardly know him, I'm not going to give this a second thought." He's not worth stressing over, good or bad. The whole point of a dating site is to meet people and see who would be a good fit. He's not demonstrating that he's a good fit, so don't try to force it to be one. When you appear confident and relaxed like this, guys will see you as a catch.