I met this guy on a dating site. We connected right off the bat. 2 months of glorious bliss, then I overracted when I found out he was sort of still browsing the dating site. I broke up with him, told him he might as well be checking out other girls while with me in public. I told him I was out of his league and to know how to better handle a real woman when he gets another chance. I also told him he would never amount to anything and he was a laborer (I KNOW THIS WAS WRONG!). I felt bad, I apologized with a Christmas card and a letter and a gift for his son. After that, we had 3 encounters where we slept together. I asked him what he thought about it and felt as it made me really miss him. He said he definitely misses me too, but not ready to commit. He left for a week to go home for the holidays. I did not contact him in anyway while he was gone, I even went on a date with a guy I met, BUT during the middle of my date he texts me "hey babe, how are ya", he text me while he was gone, that he missed me 6 times, calling me babe and sweetheart. We chatted a bit, typical conversations. He is back now, He wants to see me soon. How am I supposed to take this? When I asked what he thought, he said he didn't know and not ready to commit but he really likes me and enjoys my company. I am thinking one of two things. 1) he is putting me on the back burner and baiting me with this sweet talk, as I know he is still using the dating site and a friend of mine had talked to him and he lied to her that he wasn't talking to me and told her he had talked to me recently about wanting to work things out and he told me he doesn't want to, a lie and contradicting. or 2) Waiting to see if I go psycho on him again, as I admit, I really did cross a line with him, making fun of his profession/way of life. He is 3 years younger than me as well. I'm trying to move on. Its just really hard. I made a really big mistake and want him back. How am I to interpret his actions? GUYS?!
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I am thinking he's being overly cautious with you - waiting to see if another explosion is on the cards.
In my opinion, you showed him how flighty and emotionally unstable you were, how immature you were - a girl who prefers to nuke the relationship as a first step and regret things afterwards.
Girls like that are *not* suitable relationship material. They just aren't.
So I can easily see him being cautious about committing to you, if he has any fears that that is the sort of girl you are.2
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