What do you think of online dating sites? Would you/have you used an online dating site? Have you had any success?
- They're stupid!Vote A
- I love them!Vote B
- I have never tried, but I'm considering it!Vote C
- Only if I was desperate...Vote D
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I've used a few. Back in the day I used to use PlentyOfFish, before it renamed to POF, and I had quite a bit of success. I had a few hookups, made a couple of friends, and a few girlfriends. A couple of the relationships made on there last a few months, which isn't bad. I am currently on OKcupid, but I'm only STRICTLY using it to meet new friends. Mainly because I have a girlfriend.
I think on these websites if you're a guy, you are pretty much going to send out quite a few messages at first, and type up an interesting profile, and eventually people respond. If you're extra handsome, you'll get more responses, with or without an interesting profile, but the majority of girls will just be looking for sex.
I think it's almost the same for girls, except there's a lot of idiot guys who think they're impressing a girl with just an initial message consisting of "hey." and nothing else. That plus most girls will just get bombarded with sex offers without subtlety, regardless of how pretty she is, though the prettier she is the more sex offers she'll get. Still, I've heard from some girls on this site, who have found some genuinely nice or interesting guys. So, I guess it's alright.
All in all though, I think that dating online is a lot like dating in the real world. It just means people get to either reject you faster, or actually read what you're about without judging you on your looks. But just like the real world of dating, you're going to have your ups and downs, you're going to have users and players and people who want nothing more than sex. You're going to run the risk of meeting bad people... That's just life.
People like to take the "horror stories" out of context, or play it up like you'd have to be a complete loser to go there, but it's just people. Look, ultimately I think internet dating is just streamlined a bit. But the internet is soylent green folks. It's people. Just people. Bash it all you like, it's just people. Not everyone on there is a loser, desperate, a scammer, or a rapist lurking in some dark shadow. I wish people would start figuring that out.
(Note: I voted B, but you didn't have something in between A and B. It would have been nice if you included a "It's ok." option. Not everything is either awesome or terrible.)8