So about week ago I asked this girl out for dinner on her birthday. She said she was going out of town and wouldn't be back for her birthday. So, on her birthday I give her a text wishing her happy birthday, she comes back with thanks and if I would still like to have dinner with her on her birthday. I said sure, so during conversation I find out that I am plan B since her initial plans failed. This would be the 4th date with her, and there is a strong attraction to each other. And date went well even though I was plane B.
1.would you still date a person like that?
2.would you feel disrespected?
3.would you ever call them back?
4.would you feel used, since maybe she had no one else to spend it with, so she just didn't want to me lonely on her birthday?
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Ok, as an outside observer, it seemed like she didn't actually make you plan B. She already had plans to go out of town. It's rude to cancel plans once they are made. Since the plans fell, she seemed to wonder if you were still available, and you were. I don't think she was intentionally choosing the other option over you. It just happens. ALSO, I think you should've reconsidered the eagerness with which you told her you were free. That almost makes it seem like you have nothing else going on. Girls don't like that and if it happens to often, she will relegate you to being a "plan B" type of guy. I think you put yourself in this situation completely.2