Girls always reject the nice guys who take care of them and have know them forever. However, they will date a guy they barely knew a month just because they gave them that "spark". Is this "spark really more important than someone who cares for you? If he's attractive, funny, smart, and an overall good personality, why say no? This mentality that girls have is why most end up getting hurt or used for sex. While nice guys like me are in their 20s and have yet to have ever had a girlfriend. If you want a good guy, try giving the nice, loyal, friend that you know very well a chance.
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"Are you physically less attractive than the girls you want, and blow off girls that are about as attractive as you? Are you shy, clingy, and do things desperate for approval? Do you sit in the friend zone for long periods of time hoping that a girl will change her mind and want to date you, only to get pissed when she dates someone else?"
That anonymous girl spoke the truth on that one. Most "nice guys" seem to never realize this particularly this part. It's something that I, the quintessential "nice guy" even at nearly 31, never even had a good grasp of until recently, and that came through asking the few females I knew I could trust to tell me the truth...one in particular pretty much broke it down the same way ol' girl did up above. Once I wised up, I also started doing a bunch of deeper research into this age-old issue, not to mention what it is that women want in general. (Never hesitate to educate yourself on the fairer gender, my man.) Now I woudn't consider myself "unattractive"--I do pretty okay in keeping myself in shape--but all of that other stuff, the "clinginess", settling to "be a friend in hopes of one day winning her heart", hoping that the girl would like me for me, all those were things I never really saw as faults, or turn-offs, until I had it broken down to me.
Basically, brother, you gotta view it like this: figure out what it is that women want, then become it if you want one. It's going to take a lot of time to and by yourself to do it, but you got to--but don't do it expressly to catch the woman of your dreams, do it to better YOURSELF. Work yourself into shape--don't ever underestimate the value of sexual attraction, and part of that is through a desirable physical appearance (just the same as we guys always visually prefer the sexier broads, don't think for a second women don't do the same with us--we can't fault them for it, either). Women like to feel safe and secure with a man, and part of that mental reassurance comes through physical attraction. The other part of improving yourself is through financial stability. If you can, find what it is you like to do and get your weight up that way, put yourself in a position to be able to provide. That way when the time comes, you can actually afford to do the stuff you want. These two things, even the process of working on them, will help improve your confidence--and that's the number one thing you hear women say they like in a man: "confidence".0