We broke up exactly one month ago today. For about a week it was hell, all I did was cry, and work because work was the only thing that kept my mind off him, but as soon as I was out I would start crying again. Well, I told myself I needed to stop acting like this and be strong and get over him. So I did! I was being so strong and I was truly feeling happy again. Then I went on this awful date on Friday, right before I went out he texted me. I was shocked. I didn't answer till after the date because I didn't want it to mess with my head, but regardless the date was just awful. Anyways to get to the point, I was fine and doing great but now I feel like I did the first week after the break up. I don't want to go through all of this again :( I miss him so much.
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I am too going through the same thing. I broke up with my ex I was okay/happy. I was so proud of myself I'm doing so well at not contacting him, crying over him or anything else. I bumped into him a month after we broke up and the feelings came back. I also went on a date the next day and it got much worse.
Often, when we break up with someone that we loved or had strong feelings for, and start dating soon after ( 1months is nothing! ) we will compare the new partner to our old one. We can't stop it, it's just the thing our brain does. Your ex had something your new partner doesn't, and when you realize that, you will miss him a lot more.
You obviously aren't ready to date again, and as you can see it makes things worse so you should definitely stop if you haven't already. Listen, one month after a break up is nothing! People get back together after a month, two or three. That's the time that exes should use to think about the past relationship and see if they will miss each other.
Your ex texted you, what did he say? Do you still talk? There is possibility that he wants you back. Maybe you two need to meet up and reconsider.
Even if you won't get back together, you are strong enough to handle it, and as you can see you are not in this alone! Best of luck girl1