In a nutshell, I met a girl on a Thursday night, saw her again the next night and stayed the next six nights at her house while going home or to school during the day. I am 22, she is 20. The entire time we were hanging out she would say how great I was and we really seemed to hit it off. When hanging out or watching television, she would always lay on me, hold my hand, and etc. She let me drive her car where ever we went, she cooked me dinner a few times during this period, and we even hung out with friends together. On the fifth night of being with her, we finally had sex. Previous to that, I had gone down on her and she absolutely loved it. After sex, however, (drunken sex, at that), she basically said that I wouldn't like her anymore and that it wasn't how it was supposed to happen (because we were drunk). I left after the sixth night, texted her maybe 6 hours later and her response was very plain. Her texts came later and later until a few days later she ceased to speak to me at all. Dumb me brought her flowers a week after not seeing her (bad, bad idea).
After the flowers, things progressively got worse when she texted me and said that she's not looking for anything serious whatsoever.
My question is, how did I scare her off? She seemed so into me and I was doing everything right. Was it all too fast? Did the fact that we had sex ruin it? Was she trying to get rid of me before I had the chance to get rid of her? So many questions, and I have no idea what the answer is. LIke I said, she seemed so into me, even called me "perfect" a few times and yet I'm not sure what I did wrong.
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i think I know exactly where this girl is coming from because she said "that wasn't how it was supposed to happen". a lot of girls, including myself, want a very romantic relationship, one that will sound good to the kids one day. the fact that you guys had drunk sex messed it up. it was too soon, and it was drunk. the first time is very important to some girls. I do think you could have revived the relationship POSSIBLY if you had done the flowers sooner and maybe written her a sweet letter about "why we are good together" or something like that. just because it would have given her less time to make up her mind about writting you off. but I also think its too late now. I'm just saying that for future knowledge. you deserve a good relationship because I can tell you have a good heart. but this one sounds over to me, id move on1