I opened up about my abusive ex on our 4th date and I broke down to tears and had him promise he won't do anything like that if we were to get into a relationship. I feel so stupid for doing that but the night we spoke via telephone he says he misses me I act emotional, but me and him are gonna work out and that I worry him when I speak that way, but he understands that I am young and I am a woman. How do I cancel off this naughty, needy behavior. I am not going to call him. I am suppose to sleep over at His place this Friday. I do not intend to have sex with him just cuddle and help him clean his damn room is it a bad idea? Then on Saturday we are going to resort to get a massage, swim in the pool then just relax until we get bored and get something to eat is that a good idea
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I think your Saturday sounds good. I think sleeping over on the fifth date is...um questionable but entirely up to you two. As for the unloading on him.
I think that if you have a good guy and a guy who is willing and wanting to hear this stuff it is OK, but it could definitely scare off a lot of men. I think most people know that there are demons/skeletons and dating histories that we'll have to deal with, but if after four dates this comes flooding out in an emotional storm I'd be a little consider that those skeletons are really a big hang-up and I'd wonder if they are really ready to be in a relationship. Nonetheless I personally would listen and try to be supportive and wouldn't end a relationship based on that convo alone however my antennae would be up to see if there is baggage going forward0