Girlfriend and I just made up Thursday after a big fight, and we've been together for 5 months total. We spent the weekend together and stayed at her house because of plans we had made months ago.
This always happens when I go to her house, but she barely talks to me. I asked if she was mad or something and she said she wasn't going to have individual conversations with me when we're in a group.
I understand this, but she was sort of distant whenever I talked to her.
Then I looked at her phone while she was texting all weekend and she's constantly texting someone named "Devin". I have no idea who this is. It could be a girl, who knows.
But when we were on our way back to her house, it's like 1:30 am and we're still on the road. She's opening and closing this person's text window, then seeing the whole conversation again, then replying with a long text.
This sh*t bothers me so much. She barely puts effort into our texts anymore. Maybe it's still an open wound since we got back together, but Friday night we had a great night of drinking and she said how much she loved me and I'm the best valentine and boyfriend. This is the first time she said she loved me.
Maybe I'm overreacting? But seriously, how am I supposed to feel that she's texting someone that late and barely talking to me?
How could I even bring that up? Sorry I was creeping while you were texting who's this guy?
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I think you have the right to be at least minimally concerned at your lover receiving a text that late. I don't even text my guy friends that late. At the very least you have the right to ask why someone is texting you so late. She'll probably respond with something along the lines of "what...you're setting texting curfews on me now?" And you can say "no, I just think it's a little bit inappropriate to be texting that late unless it's something really important like an emergency and you seem to be quite involved in that conversation, I'm wondering if everything is okay...no need to get defensive unless you've got something to hide". Anyway, it would have also bothered me for her to tell me "I'm not gonna have individual conversations with you when we're in a group. Why not? It's not necessitated, but there's nothing wrong with it...I mean after all...you guys are in a relationship and that would imply to me that you guys are more intimate that just regular friends, would it not? it seems like she's setting ground rules to prevent and really seriousness between you two, that's just my opinion.
point of the story, when the texts start coming in at 1:30am, you definitely have the right to ask why the late texts.0